Male & Female Sexual Dysfunction

Many men have a problem with premature ejaculation - click on the picture to get a solution!

Most women have problems with sex at some stage in their life. Some of the problems are substantial and some relatively minor, but whatever your problem is, this site is here to explain the facts and offer advice as to the best form of treatment.

Firstly, here is an overview of some of the forms of male and female sexual dysfunction (FSD). The most common male sexual dysfunctions are erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation and premature ejaculation. See for information about overcoming premature ejaculation.

The most common female sexual dysfunctions are lack of sex drive, anorgasmia and dyspareunia.

Some form of sexual problem affects around half of women, and these problems become more common as women get older. Dysfunction can include loss of desire, physical difficulty, problems with orgasm and pain during sex. When looking at the reasons behind sexual dysfunction, we need to explore both physical and psychological factors, including a womanís relationship with her partner.

Loss of desire, or lack of sex drive, female hypoactive sexual desire disorder (FHSDD), usually affects some women at certain times of life, such as pregnancy or times of stress, but some women experience it all the time. There is a wide range of physical or psychological causes of lack of sex drive, including depression, relationship problems, hormone disorders, alcohol or drug misuse, fatigue and previous traumatic sexual experience.

Sexual & Relationship Issues Between Men and Women

Things like the end of a relationship are hard to cope with. And when you feel that you can't even get into a relationship, then things can be harder than ever. Some of us make mistakes about when to end a relationship, often feeling afterwards that we have made a mistake and wish we had not said goodbye to our partners.

But the interesting thing is that all these mistakes can be corrected by using a suitable program for relationship renewal. I am thinking of this program by Mike Fiore, which can be a great way of re-establishing connection with an ex-partner.

And this is a great site on the various ways you can restore a relationship after a break up by changing yourself - not trying to change them!

Vaginismus is a condition when muscles in or around the vagina go into a spasm, making sexual intercourse painful or impossible. It is often psychological and can occur if the woman associates sex with pain or being immoral, if she has recently undergone childbirth or has relationship problems. The problem can often be treated by sex education, counseling and the use of vaginal trainers, which are cylindrical objects inserted into the vagina.

Anorgasmia in women can be divided into two types: primary, that is when a woman has never had an orgasm, and secondary when a woman has had an orgasm but can't now. There are many reasons why a woman canít have an orgasm including fear of sex, lack of knowledge about sex, being unable to let go, insufficient effective stimulation, relationship problems and mood disorders such as depression. Psychosexual therapy is one of the methods that can help a woman overcome orgasmic problems. Basically this involves exploring her inner feelings about sex and her relationship.

Dyspareunia is physical pain experienced during sexual intercourse and can have many causes. It is particularly common after the menopause as estrogen levels fall and the vagina feels dry. It may be caused by an infection or by a violent trauma.

This problem can be solved by the use of specialist creams and lotions which your doctor or pharmacist can supply. If this fails then other solutions are available.

 It is a sad fact that sufferers are often hesitant to seek treatment for dyspareunia. I cannot emphasize too much that this condition, like others that I have written about, is treatable and that there are a variety of options available for a cure.

Fertility problems - getting pregnant

As one reviewer pointed out, sexual dysfunction is the scourge of our modern sex lives. We are deprived of pleasure because of sexual difficulties which are mostly caused by emotional difficulties, and which rarely represent our conscious aspirations and expectations of intimate sexual relationships.

Problems are numerous, including a complete lack of orgasm - known as anorgasmia - in both men and women, ejaculatory difficulties including both premature and delayed ejaculation in men, and pain during intercourse for women. There are, of course, many others.

Until that happy day arrives, however, we have to rely on the information that is currently available on the internet, and trust that it has a modicum of accuracy and is written with complete sincerity - and extraordinarily optimistic assumption.

Although the presence of the penis in the vagina produces a feeling of pleasure and some women cannot have an orgasm unless it is there, the vagina contains no sensory nerve endings comparable to those which in the clitoris cause orgasm.

It is important that both man and woman understand that the climax in most women is felt in the clitoris and cannot be reached without stimulation of that important organ.

During intercourse, the upper part of the base of the penis should be in constant contact with the clitoris, massaging and stimulating it as it moves back and forth in the vagina. In cases where it is not possible to achieve this contact, either the man or the woman, but preferably the man, should rub the clitoris with his fingers. However, every effort should be made to devise a coital position where contact between them can be attained.

A man achieves orgasm by the friction of the vaginal walls against the glans as he moves back and forth rhythmically. With a little practice, he can learn to carry on intercourse for some time by pressing the base of his penis against the clitoris, making slight movements to stimulate it but not vigorously enough to further arouse his own feelings, until the woman is fully aroused. She can cooperate by curtailing her own movements until the final moments.

couple making loveA not uncommon source of marital unhappiness is premature ejaculation and delayed ejaculation - when the man cannot maintain erection and / or control ejaculation for even a short time after entry. Sometimes ejaculation occurs immediately upon entry, and sometimes even before, upon contact with the vulva.

This is very bad for the woman, who is left in a state of tension and frustration, and bad for the man as well. The reason may be either physical or psychological, and doing something about it would be wise. However, many men can train themselves to maintain erection for longer periods, with patience and the cooperation of their partners.

Resting for a few moments after entry, with no coital movements until the immediate danger of ejaculation is past, is recommended. Another method to help gain control and confidence is the use of local anesthesia. Applied to the glans, it will slightly numb the nerve-endings and slow down reactions. However, do remember that too much of this anesthetic can cause delayed ejaculation - about which all you need to know can be found here.

There are several ointments suitable for the purpose, which can be obtained from the internet. A very small amount of the ointment, rubbed well into the head of the penis at least fifteen minutes before intercourse starts, should have a good effect. Care should be taken not to use too much nor start coitus too soon.

A little practice will reveal the best amount and time for application. Start with only a tiny bit, no bigger than a bead. The result, in prolonged sex and intensified orgasm, may well be worth the extra trouble.

Sexual lubricants

The chief lubrication for the genitals during coitus comes from the vaginal walls. But there are no lubricating glands in the penis. Although some women have a great deal of secretion, others do not have enough, especially if intercourse is prolonged or repeated. It is always best to have a reliable lubricant handy.  You can always use saliva as a "natural" lube!

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