Female Sexual Dysfunction
Strange though it may seem, there is a medically recognized condition known as psychosomatic sterility. The term means that though there is no physical reason why the woman should not conceive, her psychological attitudes prevent her from doing so. Such cases are rare, but the possibility of this form of sterility existing should never be overlooked.
The psychotherapy needed to correct the conditions may be long and difficult.
If a couple have never succeeded in conceiving a baby, they are said to have primary sterility. If they have had one or more children, and now cannot conceive, they are said to have secondary sterility. The good doctor will investigate secondary sterility as carefully and thoroughly as he would primary sterility.
The cause of secondary sterility is very often poor general health, especially of the husband. Overwork, irregular meals, too little sleep, business worries, domestic worries, in fact stresses of all kinds can upset the mechanism that produces healthy active sperms in sufficient quantities.
Similar stresses in the woman can also affect the development of her egg or the mechanics of her ovulation.
Quite a number of secondary sterile couples have general health that is not all it should be; I strongly urge them both to consult their doctor and have him prescribe.
Always, however, I describe to them when they should make love and how, in order to have the best chances of success in conceiving: the physical sexual aspects of conception are significant. Often couples are ignorant of the physical details, or are too embarrassed to discuss them. Let me suggest how important they are.
When you have both improved your health so that physically and mentally you feel great, plan your baby-making lovemaking like this:
A woman is only capable conceiving during two or three days each month. This is ovulation day, and the day after. This is because the egg only lives for about forty-eight hours if it is not fertilized. Sperm can live for up to seventy-two hours.
You calculate ovulation day by determining the first day of your next menstruation and counting backwards to the middle day of your cycle, i.e. thirteen days if you have a 26-day cycle and fourteen days if you have a 28-day cycle, fifteen days if you have a 30-day cycle, and so on. The tophi of gout can seriously impact sexual pleasure. Check out a complete answer to the pernicious problem of gout - go here for more info.
For the three or four days before ovulation day you pay especial attention to your diet, you plan your activities so that you do not over-tire yourself and see that you get plenty of sleep.
It is most important that the man does not ejaculate even once during the three days before ovulation day. This is because, on average, a man produces his maximum volume of semen after three days of complete abstinence, and we want him to transfer to you the maximum number of sperm, because the sperm content of semen has an effect on the possibility of conception.
The greater the number of sperm, the more likely is conception to take place.
Plan to make love between 6 a.m. and 8 a.m. on the morning of ovulation day. This is because the man's testosterone daily production cycle is at its maximum during this time, and this also helps.
The next thing is to choose the best position is that which will allow the penis the deepest penetration. Rear-entry with the woman kneeling on the bed, her bottom in the air and her head and arms resting comfortably on pillows is good.
This will make her torso slant downwards from bottom to head, and makes the vagina slope in the same direction. With the vagina sloping downwards like this, there will be no possibility of the semen seeping out of the vagina after ejaculation.
If you want to use the missionary position you must observe two important points. You must place two or three pillows under the woman's bottom so that her vagina is sloping downwards; and after the man has entered her, she must draw her knees up to her breasts, which will allow him deep penetration.
Though a woman can conceive without having an orgasm, it will also help if the woman does have an orgasm after her man ejaculates, because the contractions of the womb help the sperm through the cervix.
The man must stay in his partner until his penis has completely subsided. She must lie perfectly still for at least ten minutes, preferably twenty, after her partner has withdrawn. (If the missionary position was used, she can lower the soles of her feet on to the bed, still keeping her knees bent, after her man has ejaculated.)
To return to the woman's orgasm. Because it is more helpful if she orgasms after the man, I recommend the rear entry sex position. It is difficult to stimulate the clitoris manually while the man is still inside his partner, though you could do it yourself.
Still, if he goes limp fairly quickly, he can bring you to orgasm either manually or orally or by using a Sex Toy after he has withdrawn, provided it is within two or three minutes.
On the other hand, it is very easy - in rear-entry sex - for him to reach round and stimulate the clitoris, timing it so that you come off immediately after he has ejaculated.
Take the rest of the day as quietly as you can. On going to bed that evening, repeat the lovemaking even if you don't feel randy, and repeat again the next night. If you can also repeat the morning session, that is better still. In this way, during the life-time of the egg, a really massive number of sperms will have entered the woman.
If it doesn't work the first time, repeat the procedure the following month. If the woman isn't pregnant after three attempts go and see your doctor. He will refer you to the fertility clinic at the hospital. All the larger hospitals now have fertility clinics attached to them.
Note that premature ejaculation is not an issue as far as premature ejaculation is concerned, but it is easier for the woman to reach orgasm if the man does not come to orgasm too quickly. It is therefore helpful if he can last longer in bed than it takes to bring his partner to orgasm.